• Frequent bruises or injuries
• Becomes unusually quiet, withdrawn, or isolated
• Absent from work frequently, tardy often, or suddenly quits
• Stops talking about partner
• Wears concealing clothes – even in warm weather
• Has chronic health problems
• Obsession with being on time to meet partner
• Intense fear of displeasing partner
• Partner requires detailed accounting for time and money
• Shows generalized anxiety or fear
• Partner determines what she/he does, wears, and goes

If you observe some of these warning signs, the person may be a batterer:

• Talks about his/her abusive behavior towards partner
• Talks about partner in a derogatory way
• Blames partner for being "provoking"
• Shows extreme possessiveness and/or jealousy over partner
• Becomes agitated when access to partner is denied
• Requires detailed account of partner’s time and use of money
• Constantly checks up on partner both during and after work
• Treats partner like a "second class citizen"
• Controls who partner sees, what partner wears, and where partner goes
• Has a sense of entitlement over partner

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